Say no effectively-A psychologist professor asked Peter Ducker for the interview of his book, and he said that “One of the secrets of productivity…is to have a huge waste paper basket to take care of all the invitations such as yours — productivity in my experience consists of not doing anything that will help the work of other people…” And so in this way, you can evaluate the requests before we agree to them.
How to say no effectively and not feel bad about it
Also, people never think it seriously if we say no to them. The psychologist said, “Chances are the consequences of saying no is much worse in our heads than they would ever be in reality.”
Here we are with some facts that will help you to bring yourself back to life.
Why do you feel challenging to say no?
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Before this, we must know the reasons to say the yes behavior.
Well, our elders teach us to respect everyone around. You must have listened to them saying you that do whatever they say and you must not argue with them.
If you want to avoid the argument, then it means saying no can lead to confrontation and hence you will have to explain your position.
You might be afraid that not in intentions but you should not hurt others. But it will not matter if you will harm yourself by saying such.
We always have a thought in our mind that every proposal will bring an opportunity for you. But if one day you go out to the cafe with your friends, and there you get a chance to help your superior then it might take your career path up.
We feel guilty later if we refuse to help someone at a specific moment. We would hurt ourselves no matter if we were right to take the decisions.
When is it right to say no effectively?
Well, it is difficult to say no if you are used to it, and hence there are many situations when you have to work even if you do not want to do. But here you must know how to say no to a person in such cases.
For lending money
You remain the forever friend for someone to whom you lend money, and when you say no to them, they will forget you one day and also they will delete your number from their contact list and forget you lend them money to buy them a house till the coming morning.
Overtime
If you think the money that people lend you for paying the overtime is not suitable for you, then you must feel free to refuse them. If you work hard more than your body allows you, then it can affect your health severely. You should never miss such opportunities because of the health issues, and also your productivity can go down with this.
The case when you have to spend time with those people with whom you are not happy.
Well, sometimes you have to spend time with those people with whom you do not like to be with. You have to fake your smile in front of them and listen to their boring things. But now you must think that is it important to waste your energy on such people? Are they essential to you? Try and say no to them and make your life colorful.
The situation when you have to spend time with those who do not value your time.
Why should you value those people who always try to make excuses in front of you? They will ever say to you that “I’m sorry I’m late!” “I went to bed late yesterday!” “Oops, I missed the bus!” “I would have been here on time but had to help an old woman cross the road!” Please do not value such people.
Anytime you want
You must not be afraid to say no to some proposal if you do not feel it interesting for you. Say ok only when you want to go for it. You can develop new sides of your life and try unusual experiences and think about how to relax.
How can you embed it into your life?
You need to make a list of values and priorities in your life and then work accordingly. There is no need to waste your time on unimportant things.
