Say no without feeling bad-Refusal indeed is a complicated thing to do. You do not want to hurt people or even disappoint them. Like every other thing is this world refusal has its unique way of doing it. Learn it to make your life easier.
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Why do you want to refuse?
It is important that you realize what exactly is the reason for your refusal. First, understand that yourself. If you think that is something the other person will be able to understand then go and ahead reason out.
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Give people an option.
This will make it much easier for you to say no without feeling bad. People do not feel completely betrayed when you offer them another way out. For example, if you aren’t able to do a job in your workplace connect these people with another colleague of yours who can help them.
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Be polite and compassionate
Do not just go about saying a straight and flat out no. Try to smooth it out with a little more emotion.
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Turn down the request and not the person.
While refusing to remember to frame your sentences such that you don’t turn down the person but the request. Be gentle while refusing yet firm & it will help you to say no without feeling bad.
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Practice it.
Do not wait for something big to be brought on your way that is difficult for you to perform. Start it by refusing small things. For example, if you have just one pen and someone wants to borrow a pen from you say no because you simply can’t. And remember while saying no to these people you are not doing something awful. On the other hand, if you say yes to you, it would have been wrong to yourself.
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Use a compliment while refusing.
It softens the blow, and no one feels too bad for your refusal.
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Choice
It is important that you can make a choice. Weigh your pros and cons and make a choice. A choice if you want to say yes or no to the person.
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Explain your reason for turning down the request.
It is essential that you can explain them properly why exactly you need to refuse them.
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Be firm.
If you face with persistence be firm. Do not budge, and remember not to be a pushover.
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Do not take long to answer them.
Take an optimum time but not forever. If you do so that an irritate the person and when
you say no finally, he/she might take greater offense.
