What we do if we want to have a good grasp of Pythagoras theorem?
The answer is we start with establishing a firm knowledge of a right angle triangle. Similarly, to woo a woman, you need to understand her heart — What she feels, why is she feeling that way and how can you make it easier for her. Sounds daunting? No worries, in here you will find all that you need to hear a less of “You never understand me.”
EFFORT IS EVERYTHING
Women are more in touch with their compassion than men are! We are not hesitant to give it our all when we think that the person is right for us. For a relationship to work, by the virtue of their nature, women forgo a lot of things, from their inhibitions to fears to insecurities. A hefty amount of sacrifice from her part goes into keeping the relationship steady. It is normal human nature to expect something after relenting this much. Her expectations rise from her participation and a caring partner makes all the effort to express his love for her. Sometimes it is conveyed by a simple thank you and sometimes by a peck!
It is never too late to make your woman feel special. If your girl likes flowers and chocolates, it is never a bad idea to turn up on her door, out of the blue, with a bouquet and a box of her favourite sweets. If she is into wine-and-dine, a bottle of Merlot and a movie marathon will do the trick or if you are an old soul at heart, the old-fashioned letter embodying your emotions is way more exquisite to her than any 2-carat Harry Winston!
It is fine at times when you want to hang out with your buddies and include her in the mix. However, the sparks between you two will only flare up in the absence of any third wheel. Girls prefer intimacy and romance and amidst the cackles of your friends it is, mark my words, impossible. Allow her that comfort zone to get close to you, to know you. Take her out for a lunch or dinner, let her know that you too are in it as much as she is. In short, allow the fire, to warm you both.
NICE GUYS DON’T FINISH LAST
Stability is good than leather jackets period. Kindness is the tortoise to the playboy rabbit. Hence in order to win the race, bring out all the big guns–the sweetness, the chivalry, the compassion. Trust me, our attraction towards security supercedes the lure of the infamous “bad-boy charm”, any day. Since it is trustworthiness we strive for, your gentlemanly attitude will only score you brownie points. Honestly, because the whoosh-and-swoosh is so overrated!
Read also: 12 Things a Man Would Do If He Really Were in Love with You
DON’T SAY IT, BE IT
This might seem a bit confusing to what I said previously, but bear with me, I’m all for solving your dilemmas! There is a mighty fine line between words of mouth and actions and it takes a moment for any women to pick-up on that distinction. Align your words with your actions, be a gentleman in action rather than words, your actions will relay more than your words ever can. We are literally tired of frogs and no fools to encourage one either, so be worthy of the crown and throne that she knows you deserve because there is only false pride in letting people down.
Lest if you might think that your sweetness must be the touchstone to her ‘yes’, then allow me to defeat that misconstrued notion and tell you, it is not at all the case. She is not liable to owe you anything whatsoever for your ‘apparent’ sweetness. If your tenderness isn’t a by-product of your inherent nature, then sir, kindly take a step back!
Now since we have already stepped into the ‘step-back phase’, it is of utmost importance for every guy to have a clear understanding of the concept of consent. If she doesn’t want to date you she doesn’t have to. Don’t be a lousy excuse for a man, for one, we have plenty of them and secondly, your nicety isn’t a gift for the humankind, so get off that high pedestal and if you are true to the core, accept it and move on!
Your pleasant nature doesn’t need any marketing, your actions will ‘walk that talk’ for you!
